The other night I was pleased to hear a young girl tell a guy “I’m a sub but anything you do to me you should be willing to have me do to you.”
Some people have responded that she must “really be a switch” or that “she needs a lesson about consent.”
Nope. I talked to the girl later on in the night. She’s a pure sub. But she wants her doms to understand her boundaries and how she feels.
The people who need to understand consent are the people willing to do stuff to other people but are not ready to experience in return.
She rarely actually does to the tops what they do to her - but feels it’s important that they know she could because it keeps them in check.
If you want to slap a girl be prepared for her to slap you back. If you want to hold a girl down and finger her ass you should be prepared for her to do that to you as well.
Otherwise you aren’t thinking about what it feels like for her and you’ll be a bad dom and go to far.
And that’s not good.
Now sometimes the sub will take you up on it. And that’s fine. I’ve had girls slap me and finger my ass and hold me down and shove their pussies in my face until I’ve nearly passed out.
That was fine. And if anything taught me a little bit more about how they feel and let me be a better dom in the future.
And that’s how every top should look at it.